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Religion and Parenting.

sweetupndown9:

It blows my mind that people use eternal punishment as a way to make their children behave. I read on facebook this morning the sentence “I love that no one can punish better than our Lord!” talking about threatening her children with the idea that “Jesus watches you all the time” and that he’ll punish you if you misbehave.

I don’t have children so I might be out of my element here.

But the way I look at it is based out of how I felt being told as a child that Jesus was “always with me”.

My grandma told me that “Jesus lived in my heart”. and I screamed, and cried and begged her to get him out, because I was terrified of having a little tiny man living in my body. Of course the idea of that is ridiculous, but how scared I felt was very real. I couldn’t have been more than 4 years old when that happened, because my grandma was still living in Nashville, she moved away from the city when I was 5 years old. My family loves to tell that story as a joke whenever I am around.

Now, that was the nice sweet version of “Jesus is always with you”, and I was terrified. I cannot imagine how scary it must be for children to be threatened with eternal punishment. Not to mention the extreme amount of guilt that comes along with being told you are ~always being watched~ there are so many rules against everything. What if you do something wrong on accident? Which, as humans we tend to make mistakes. If Jesus is the ultimate punisher, won’t he be very strict?

Won’t that guilt and fear carry over into adulthood? (yes) Why should you be a good person because god is always watching? Why not be a good person because it’s the proper thing to do?

I’m no expert on parenting… but isn’t that just wrong? To scare your child like that?

I like to think that the way Lyzz and Chris parent Annabelle is a good starting point for “If you misbehave you will be punished.” Instead of teaching Belle that she is going to upset Jesus, they teach Belle that Mom and Dad will be very upset. That she has hurt Mom and Dad’s feelings. Belle will be legitimately upset if you tell her that she has hurt your feelings. She will cry and cry and cry like you spanked her (which they don’t have to do because she is sensitive enough to be upset at the idea of upsetting you.) She’ll even say “I’m sorry.” sometimes hug you. The point is that she is genuinely sorry. Not because she’ll burn for eternity but because she has hurt someone that she knows. Now of course sometimes the 3yr old “I don’t care attitude” comes along and that’s where harsher punishments are needed like taking something away, not doing something for her etc etc.

I’m just trying to process the idea that god is the ultimate punisher. Which I mean isn’t a new idea.. but the idea of applying that to your parenting… Blows my mind.

For “all the good” that religion does (which can be disputed. Another post for another time.) it sure does have to be very scary to be effective.

jedigrrrl
jedigrrrl:

The amazing and heartwarming saga of the pink R2-KT droid

Sci-fi and fantasy tales of triumph have inspired many of us for decades, but for one little girl, Star Wars grew to mean so much more—and inspired an original R2 droid in the process.

In 2004, Katie Johnson was diagnosed with a brain tumor at the age of 6.
After five months of chemotherapy, Katie’s dad Albin had an idea, after Katie thought she spotted R2-D2 in the stained glass window of a church: Why not build his daughter her very own R2 unit to keep an eye on her, a la the original R2 in Star Wars: Episode II?
So, Katie’s extremely handy pops—who has some serious Star Wars cosplay chops—went to work, and even got in touch with the R2 Builders Club when he needed some help.
Katie’s condition started to go downhill before work was finished, so the team rallied. The fruit of their labor was the hot pink R2-KT, affectionately named after the young Star Wars fan who inspired it.
The custom droid kept Katie company for the next few months as she continued to fight, until she sadly passed away in August 2005.
But her legacy lives on, and R2-KT continues to make the rounds to children’s hospitals and events around the nation, becoming a source of encouragement for others who are still battling.
R.I.P., Katie, and thanks so much for inspiring one of the coolest—and kindest—droids in the galaxy.
via The Mary Sue and blastr.com

jedigrrrl:

The amazing and heartwarming saga of the pink R2-KT droid


Sci-fi and fantasy tales of triumph have inspired many of us for decades, but for one little girl, Star Wars grew to mean so much more—and inspired an original R2 droid in the process.

In 2004, Katie Johnson was diagnosed with a brain tumor at the age of 6.

After five months of chemotherapy, Katie’s dad Albin had an idea, after Katie thought she spotted R2-D2 in the stained glass window of a church: Why not build his daughter her very own R2 unit to keep an eye on her, a la the original R2 in Star Wars: Episode II?

So, Katie’s extremely handy pops—who has some serious Star Wars cosplay chops—went to work, and even got in touch with the R2 Builders Club when he needed some help.

Katie’s condition started to go downhill before work was finished, so the team rallied. The fruit of their labor was the hot pink R2-KT, affectionately named after the young Star Wars fan who inspired it.

The custom droid kept Katie company for the next few months as she continued to fight, until she sadly passed away in August 2005.

But her legacy lives on, and R2-KT continues to make the rounds to children’s hospitals and events around the nation, becoming a source of encouragement for others who are still battling.

R.I.P., Katie, and thanks so much for inspiring one of the coolest—and kindest—droids in the galaxy.

via The Mary Sue and blastr.com

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somepolitics:

drueisms:

Cristian Fernandez is only 12 years old. And if Florida prosecutor Angela Corey has her way, he’ll never leave jail again.
Cristian hasn’t had an easy life. He’s the same age now as his mother was when he was born. He’s a survivor of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. In 2010, Cristian watched his stepfather commit suicide to avoid being charged with abusing Cristian.
Last January, Cristian was wrestling with his 2-year-old brother, David, and accidentally broke David’s leg. Despite this, their mother left Cristian with his brother again in March. While the two boys were alone, Cristian allegedly pushed his brother against a bookcase, and David sustained a head injury. After their mother returned home, she waited six hours before taking David to the hospital. David eventually died.
Now Cristian is being charged with first degree murder — as an adult. He’s the youngest person in the history of his Florida county to receive this charge, and his next hearing is scheduled for tomorrow.
REBLOG AND SIGN THE PETITION BELOW
(Petition)

I almost wish that I could laugh as if this were some sort of joke. 

somepolitics:

drueisms:

Cristian Fernandez is only 12 years old. And if Florida prosecutor Angela Corey has her way, he’ll never leave jail again.

Cristian hasn’t had an easy life. He’s the same age now as his mother was when he was born. He’s a survivor of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. In 2010, Cristian watched his stepfather commit suicide to avoid being charged with abusing Cristian.

Last January, Cristian was wrestling with his 2-year-old brother, David, and accidentally broke David’s leg. Despite this, their mother left Cristian with his brother again in March. While the two boys were alone, Cristian allegedly pushed his brother against a bookcase, and David sustained a head injury. After their mother returned home, she waited six hours before taking David to the hospital. David eventually died.

Now Cristian is being charged with first degree murder — as an adult. He’s the youngest person in the history of his Florida county to receive this charge, and his next hearing is scheduled for tomorrow.

REBLOG AND SIGN THE PETITION BELOW

(Petition)

I almost wish that I could laugh as if this were some sort of joke.